Tuesday, February 24, 2026

What is the Good Life?

 


Another excerpt from Hearty Masculinity.

              When you read through some of these men’s books, they like to attach themselves to religion, Christianity in particular, in one of two ways.

On one hand, these folks often make the case that religions empower civilization, and that Christianity[1] in particular is the “juice” that keeps western civilization moving. They’re saying that affirmations of right Christian belief and the hierarchical structure of the church, fused to masculine virtue, is the only thing keeping the Western world from utter collapse.

On the other hand, there is a sleight of hand that some of these guys do,[2] sometimes even in the same breath that they affirm traditional Christian Orthodoxy, where they present themselves as a Jungian/Bultmann-esque[3] shaman-like figure who can crack open what all those silly Christians are saying and get to the meat of it, which is… whatever program they’re selling. Christianity is actually about overcoming your dominant father. Christianity is actually about re-writing your own story through native American or Egyptian archetypes. Christianity is actually about owning your own property and marrying a trad wife. In short, if you squint at the Christian story, you’ll see Christians have gotten it wrong for 2,000 years and -insert guru here- alone has the magical key to unlock the real meaning of the faith.

Whenever I run into this type of thing, I ponder and puzzle over their focus being either on orthodoxy, even when they’re affirming some pretty out-there and heterodox stuff, or the hierarchy and structures of the Church. To my way of thinking, top down authority structures and a ridged set of beliefs, aren’t the stuff of life—and Christ comes that we might have life and have it abundantly. These aspects of religion that the manosophere fixates on might make you more susceptible to joining a cult, but they’re not going to lead to a good life. They’re not going to help your life flow with meaning and purpose and joy.

So, just as I offered you a different perspective—that of a man with a heart condition—in the first half of the book, I’ll be doing the same here. Instead of structure or belief as the starting point, what happens if we begin with practice? Instead of heady orthodoxy, let’s be grounded orthopraxy; instead of the heights of hierarchy, let’s notice the connection points between worship and life!

I’ll begin by giving you a basic sense of what is going on in worship, specifically that there are seven things Christians have consistently done in worship since we started describing worship. Then I want to tell you how those things have made me a better man and point out how its absence has made our world worse—I’ll be making the case that these worship practices are good both individually and societally. Next, I’ll take a little time to ground the Seven Central Things in scripture, as people often accuse liturgical churches of skimping in that area. Finally, I’ll get to the heart of the matter and name some ways each of these seven movements of the worship service point you to the good life, wrapping each one up with a question that might be useful for you.



[1] Paul Kingsnorth, Against Christian Civilization in First Things, January 2025 is an excellent reflection on why this line of logic goes against that man we find preaching in Galilee and crucified on a Roman cross.

[2] I’m looking at you Jordan Peterson.

[3] Jung a psychologist who focused on archetypes. Bultmann a theologian known for “demythologizing” the Greek New Testament.

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