Monday, June 23, 2025

Useful Cuttings from My Time of Discernment


 

Since discerning that it is not my calling to be the Bishop of New Jersey, the Synod went through a three-day time of discernment that led to the calling of a new Bishop, Christa Compton. Thanks be to God!

As I recalibrate from that year long time of discernment, there are still some irritants, clutter that is keeping me from being fully present. In the spirit of “better out than in” here are pieces of my discernment I think are worth lifting up for the sake of the wider Church one last time. They might even be useful for folk discerning what’s next at the coming Churchwide Assembly.

Closures:

                A bunch of congregations are going to close, and that will affect the life of the congregations that remain. This includes the scramble to integrate as many members of the closing congregation into surrounding congregations and helping them process their grief. It also includes navigating the fight or flight “I don’t want to be the last person who turns out the lights of our congregation” reactions of leaders in remaining congregations. For local Pastors it means something like 6 extra funerals a year, and these will be “anonymous Lutheran” funerals—funerals for people with whom you have no prior relationship, but will expect the pastoral attention of their now non-existent home pastor.

For all those reasons, I think a “local tithe” from closing congregations to the Cluster or District the congregation was in ought to be considered as an informal closure policy. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve benefited from the EMU program, which was funded by a closed congregation, and our camp ministries certainly use money from closed congregations faithfully. It just feels like moving a bunch of money from the peripheries to the center can create painful tensions that don’t need to be there.

Retirements:

                From my observation, one of the hardest things a pastor can do is retire. The ways in which we grow to love our people, and sometimes get enmeshed with them, the weird routine of being a pastor, the amount of self we offer up to this vocation, the rush of capturing people’s attention for 20 minutes on a Sunday with the act of confession of our faith, and the evaporation of our name and its replacement with a title, “Pastor”—can make us, to quote the Shawshank Redemption, “Institutionalized”; it’s hard to be on the outside, hard to be a “civilian”, a lay person. And as such there is a propensity to get squirrely.

In fact, I’d go so far as to say half the retired pastors I know are actively plotting to make changes in the congregation they no longer serve or are hyper-functioning in a negative way at the congregation in which they worship. That’s not to say I’ve had solely bad experiences with retired pastors—in fact, some of the wisest mentors I’ve met are retired ministers who were able to take off the collar and throw themselves into a new adventure, or have found ways to be useful to the wider church in their retirement.

                What do you do with a problem like Maria… or rather retired pastors?

On one hand, there is some personal responsibility involved in all this that should be cultivated before retirement—an ongoing returning to the font—baptism not ordination is your primary identity. Personally, I try to have at least one meaningful life project going on that has nothing to do with my ministry, and my wife is a sort of accountability partner in that, nudging me when I veer toward “institutionalized” behavior.

On the other hand, retired pastors need to be listened to. I think regularly running a retiring pastor listening panel (maybe a “Last Call Theological Education” event) based on the Wisdom books, so a slightly shifted version of my “Wisdom From” Bible Study, could be a healthy thing for the church writ large. It would compile generational snap shots of retired pastors’ wisdom, and also be a sort of circuit breaker for potential bad behavior.

And finally… The 4Ds

                It is my conviction that the Church’s job is to engage with the world as it is, in order to share the Gospel believably. A solid conceptual framework for understanding what’s right in front of our nose is the 3Ds—Decentralization, Demographic Shift, and Disestablished. A good description of a believable gospel in this 3D world is the 4th D, we are Disenchanted—our habits are wholly secular so the holy is unbelievable—believing the Gospel in a 3D world will look like Re-enchantment.

                In a Decentralized world, we must be Nimble. Imagine a roving Church—imagine the wider church decamping in a congregation’s backyard for a week, a good old fashioned Lutheran Revival! A Church where Dinner Church and other forms of public ministry are common, and local congregations are healthy and empowered.

                In a Demographically Shifted world, we must embrace Authentic Diversity. No more the day when Lutheran automatically means Lake Wobegon, and also no more beating ourselves up with a wet noodle because we minister in a less than diverse context, instead of recognizing the kinds of diversity that ARE there and trying to reflect it.

                In a Disestablished world, we need to intentionally make Partners. The old web of connection—boy scouts, toast masters, ethnic clubs, is broken and not coming back, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t groups and organizations that have cropped up who would be amenable to working alongside the Church. One place where this sort of work is being done is Philadelphia, where Partners for Sacred Places is leading the way.

                Finally, in a Disenchanted world, we ought to be Re-enchanters. We ought to be a people who practice holy habits, so we can still point to God—our confessions are not abstract, but grounded in God’s good works revealed to us. We are a people of prayer and friendship, beauty and gratitude, rest and passion!

 

                And there you have it, my view of things, the Church is dealing with making endings healthy and holy, as well as chasing the Spirit to practices and places that allow the Gospel to be received as trustworthy and true.

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